Jumping to Conclusions

wedding rings 150x150 Jumping to ConclusionsRecently I had to have minor inpatient surgery. Ok,
it was a colonoscopy. Not exactly fun.

I survived the preparations and was lying on a gurney, waiting for my turn. The nurses were extremely nice. I was wearing my wedding ring. The last thing I remember is the head nurse saying to me, “Now, you understand that you will be given a sedative.

“You may not remember some things. For the rest of the day, do not sign any legal documents. Do not make any major decisions. Do not drive.”

Uh, huh. No problem.

The procedure went well (I guess). Soon I was napping at home. I woke up, extremely hungry, and we decided to go out for pizza. Now, it is my habit not to wear my wedding ring inside the house. So I wasn’t alarmed when I woke up ringless.

I was, however, upset when I looked in the ring box on my bookshelf and it was empty.

I am ashamed to admit to my immediate thought. Can you guess? Yep, I jumped to a conclusion.

Someone stole my ring!

Why would I think that? Well, I always place the ring in the box when I come inside. I did not remember doing anything else. The last time I saw the ring was right before surgery—right before being given a sedative by a doctor and two nurses I didn’t know!  My imagination ran wild.

Then my husband said, “Well, I saw it on your hand in the car on the way home.”

Oh. Um. Er. Okay.

I then recalled a very fuzzy memory of tottering toward the bed, yanking the ring off my finger and dropping it into a drawer of the nightstand. I opened the drawer—and there it was.

Now, I know better than to jump to conclusions like that. But, whether because of the drugs or because of the drugs making my memory all funny, I did. (I would like to use that as an excuse anyway!) 

At the BBB, we see this type of misunderstanding quite frequently. For no reason that is apparent to us, a business or a consumer will jump to the conclusion that the other party is deliberately trying to do them dirty. And it makes resolution that much harder. And often, that’s all the issue turns out to be—a giant misunderstanding.

So please, folks, and I offer myself as an example: Don’t jump to conclusions. Allow yourself to entertain the idea that the other party is probably acting in good faith. It makes it much less embarrassing when you turn out to be wrong.

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About Holly Doering

Holly Doering has worked for the Better Business Bureau Serving Eastern Washington, North Idaho, and Montana for half a decade. Her areas of expertise include the CORE Values Program (Character, Optimism, Respect, Ethics) for Teens and Charity Review as well as writing and editing. Prior to that, she has written for two newspapers, a local magazine, and taught English at the community college. She is the proud author of a short story in ZYZZYVA literary magazine and has had good luck publishing lots of poetry. Each year she rolls up her sleeves and wades into the autumn Nanowrimo writing madness and has several unfinished novels to her credit.